Someone Tell Me How to Get my Ex-girlfriend Back

That’s what I wanted to know and I wanted to know it desperately.  I felt absolutely lousy without her.  We’ve been a couple for 5 years and now it’s over.  I could hardly believe it.  I was completely lost the first week after our breakup.  I was in a daze when I spoke to one of my buddies.  “Forget her,” he said, “Life’s like that…these things happen,” was his philosophical reply.  Sure, easy for HIM to say.

Then another buddy exclaimed, “What, you’re just going to take this lying down?  Do something, get her back…go hook up with someone else and make her jealous…let her see what she’s missing.  That’ll do the job.”  No offence to him but I am not the champion stud who draws women like a magnet.  I’m too shy to do these kinds of things.  Well, that put paid to his suggestion.

After a few more well-intentioned but totally misplaced comments from more buddies, one of my closest friends said something that I shocked me at first because it was completely unexpected.  He said, “Go along with the breakup.”  You could have knocked me over with a feather.  Here I was asking how to get her back and he was telling me to go along with the idea of breaking up.  I would have walked out of our conversation if he did not say the next thing he said, “If you don’t agree with her about the breakup, you will never win her back.”  That got me all ears. 

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Then he explained step-by-step the process of what I should do. 

The first step was to do something about myself, not just call her to make up (which was what I desperately wanted to do).  I still remember the afternoon my friend and I enrolled as members of a gym.  It cost me a bomb since the package included a once-a-week workout with a personal trainer.  So that started my routine of pumping iron, jogging, stretching, sweating (lots of it) for the following 6 weeks.  The first week or so was torture.  The only thing that kept me on that insane program were my friend’s words ringing in my brain, “You want her back, don’t you?” 

Surprisingly to me, the regime got easier as the weeks passed.  After 6 agonizing weeks, I was feeling great!  Losing 17 pounds had a lot to do with that, too.  But working out wasn’t the only thing that my friend did with me those 6 weeks.

He took me through a painstaking journey of self-evaluation.  We talked, he questioned, I answered, I asked, he advised.  He became my sounding board for all the faults I had in my life.  So many times I didn’t like what I heard.  But as they say, good medicine always tastes bitter.  Finally I came to grips with the kind of man I was and what I did wrong in the relationship.  Of course, not everything that went wrong was my fault, but this was not about her; it was about me.

So I made it a point to change.  It wasn’t easy but after weeks of doing things differently, it became a habit.  I stopped smoking and threw all my girlie magazines away.  I started to be more generous and less fussy.  I began to like kids, something that I never did before.  All in all, after about 6 weeks, I had changed both internally and externally. 

Now came the challenge of meeting with my ex-girlfriend.  I was thankful my friend was at hand to help.  He was going to have a birthday party for his five year old.  So he invited both my ex and myself.  Before the party, he told me exactly what to do and what not to.  He didn’t have to tell me anything twice, I was all ears. 

So the party began and we were all there.  I greeted my ex-girlfriend and she just smiled.  I could see she was surprised to see the slim and trim me.  The program went smoothly and I stuck to the game plan like glue.  The main thing my friend told me to do was, “Play with the kids…treat them gently…have fun with them.”  So I did.  I must have done everything the purple dinosaur does with kids.

It must have worked because the next day, my ex calls me and we chatted.  She told me how surprised she was to see my new fondness with children.  I was ecstatic! 

To cut a long story short, I’m happy to say that 5 months and many more meetings after that, my girlfriend and I are back together again. 

If you have just gone through a breakup, I hope you will be encouraged by my story.  Perhaps you can see yourself in it, too and do something to get your ex-girlfriend back.

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